J Soul Healing

  I enjoy writing. That is why I have published a few books. Having written for such a long time, I wanted to publish a book in English rather than Korean. I tried to submit an essay book in English to Amazon, but after being told that it had to be written in native English, I wavered and eventually gave up. Then, by chance, I discovered Blogspot. The idea that writing here would improve my skills, allow me to share what I know with people around the world, and even generate income—I thought, "This is exactly what I should do at this stage of my life." I have quite a lot of material gathered from my counseling sessions over the years. Google is the world's most popular search engine, after all. Honestly, I was intimidated by coding and HTML at first. It was a completely unfamiliar world. If I had to buy books and take classes just to get started, I wouldn't have dared to even attempt it. But I have Google's Gemini. I call that friend 'Jamie'. 1. My Online ...

 "I don't know whether to do it or not." This is the one question I hear more than anything else —after all these years of listening to people's lives, I can tell you this: , I can tell you this: that hesitation you're feeling right now is not a weakness. It's proof that you are living with intention. Whether it's something small like what to have for lunch, or something that keeps you up at night — whether to leave your job, reach out to that person, or finally let a relationship go — life is a constant stream of decisions. And the ones that matter most are the ones we circle around the longest. I hear it all the time in my sessions: "what should I do? Part of me feels like I should, and part of me feels like I shouldn't…" What Hesitation Is Really Telling You There's an old saying passed down through generations: "When you're unsure whether to do it — don't." Not forever. Just until you truly understand why you hesitat...

 Most people think that being nice makes you a good person. But that is not the case. Being nice does not always make one a good person. From a young age, we have been taught to live nicely — to agree, avoid conflict, and make everyone feel comfortable. And so we learn to suppress the truth, to nod when we should say no, and to conform when we should stand firm. We call this kindness. But is it really kindness? Being nice is sometimes just indifference, laziness, or going along with others — dressed up as kindness. If we repeatedly offer false agreement, we end up enabling them — the other person learns that it is only natural. In this way, we gradually turn them into a worse person. That is why people say, "I tried to be nice, but I ended up getting hurt." The truth does not disappear just because you avoid it. Even if you let dirty water settle, it will rise again. We must distinguish between being nice and being upright. Being upright has a completely different meaning. Be...

A few days ago, two women in their late twenties came to my counseling office. The moment they sat down, one of them said: "Can you guess what I do for a living?" I laughed to myself. 'If a patient walked into a hospital and told the doctor, "Guess what's wrong with me" — what kind of face would that doctor make?' Luckily, her friend stepped in. "Hey, this isn't a fortune teller's. Why are you asking like that?" That one line softened the whole room. We ended up having a great session. But that moment stayed with me. Because in that small exchange, the whole logic of human relationships was right there. Up and Down — What's the Difference? Most people think of it as strong vs. weak. Oppressor vs. victim. But it's simpler than that. It's about the "flow of energy" The one above** has what the other person needs — money, power, experience, information, skills. They have the right to lead. But with that comes the resp...